Nicole Calivo

MAed, LMHCA, NCC

About Nicole (She/Her)

Nicole offers a warm, steady, and relational presence in her work with children, teens, and families. At Modern Youth, she creates a space where young people can exhale — where big feelings are met with calm rather than alarm, and curiosity rather than judgment. From that foundation of safety, they begin building emotional regulation skills, deeper self-understanding, and stronger relationships at home and beyond.

Her work is shaped by insight into how culture, identity, and systemic stressors impact a young person's experience. She believes in meeting young people not as problems to be solved, but as individuals in particular, meaningful moments of becoming themselves. She brings attunement and deep respect to her work with youth across each developmental stage:

  • Younger children with impulses faster than their words, who are discovering what they can do, what they can't, and that they're bigger than their biggest feelings

  • Children on the edge of adolescence, still inquisitive and unguarded, eager to discover what they're capable of

  • Early teens immersed in the work of growing up, navigating the tension between belonging and losing themselves

  • Older teens standing at the threshold of adulthood, searching for values of their own and a sense of purpose they can claim

Nicole supports neurodivergent youth in understanding and honoring how their brains and bodies work, rather than trying to make them someone they're not.

While her primary focus at Modern Youth is working with children, teens, and families, she may also support individual adult clients on a case-by-case basis when clinically appropriate.

Areas of Focus

  • Children and Teens

  • Emotional Regulation and Coping Skills

  • Anxiety and Depression

  • Grief and Loss

  • Trauma, PTSD, and Complex PTSD

  • Life Transitions and Adjustment

  • Relational and Family Stress

  • Self-Esteem and Body Image

  • Cultural and Racial Identity

  • Gender and Sexuality

  • Neurodiversity-Affirming Care

  • Autism Spectrum Support (Emotional and Social Development)

  • Family Support and Caregiver Collaboration

Therapeutic Approaches

  • Person-centered and relational therapy

  • Narrative Therapy

  • Internal Family Systems (IFS)

  • Attachment theory

  • Somatic and mindfulness-based approaches

  • Liberation Psychology

  • Motivational Interviewing (MI)

  • Solution-Focused Brief Therapy (SFBT)

What Sessions Look Like

Sessions with Nicole are built around what is needed on any given day. Her approach is trauma-informed and developmentally responsive, always moving at a pace the young person can hold. For those in crisis, in pain, or struggling to find reasons to stay, Nicole holds groundedness, helping them slow down and return to the present moment, finding stability in their senses and their surroundings before anything else.

The therapeutic work comes in many forms. With younger children, it may unfold through imaginative play, art, or storytelling. With older children and teens, it may look like conversations over a game of cards, role-playing communication skills, or learning to recognize and express emotions in safe ways. These approaches are not incidental; they are how young people process experience and make sense of themselves.

Within that space, Nicole helps youth find language for their inner world, build courage to express themselves, and develop tools for moving through the feelings and moments that seem most overwhelming. The trust built in session becomes a bridge to clearer communication, greater confidence, and stronger relationship

Working with Caregivers

Growth doesn't stop when the session ends. Nicole believes this work is most powerful when caregivers are thoughtfully included. She collaborates with parents while honoring the privacy necessary for young people to feel safe. When helpful, she offers parent sessions focused on strengthening communication, understanding emotional patterns, and supporting growth at home.

Education and Experience

  • Licensed Mental Health Counselor Associate (LMHCA), Washington State

  • National Certified Counselor (NCC)

  • Master's Degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling, Seattle University

  • Bachelor's Degree in Cultural Anthropology, The Evergreen State College

  • Clinical experience in community mental health agencies and public schools across the South Puget Sound